(Photo by Venesa Riach)
Vive Le Difference!
By Millie Juarez
He has a college degree. I don’t.
I love white rice. He loves Spanish rice.
I have green eyes. He has brown eyes.
He is Mexican. I am Puerto Rican.
He’s funny. I’m not.
HIS MAKE is different from my MAKE!
There are surely lots of differences between my husband and I. Who would have known, except God Himself, that He could combine two different personalities to make a difference in our sphere of influence today?
What we forgot was that there’s a reason opposites attract–because it’s good for us.
Think about it. If you married someone just like you, then
- You wouldn’t have to grow.
- You wouldn’t have to get out of your comfort zone.
- You wouldn’t have to enter into someone else’s world.
Instead, differences are precisely what you need to become the person God created you to be. As Solomon noted, “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend” (Proverbs 27:17, NLT).
Working with male/female differences, rather than against them, can definitely help couples live happily in sync in many areas of married life.
My husband and I have been married 43 years. Throughout the years we’ve learned to adjust and change for the sake of harmony. I compare it to an orchestra with all its different musical instruments warming up before a performance. The sounds are like a clashing vim! But once the performance starts the musicians raise their instruments to exquisite harmony. In marriage there must be harmony. It might start off with a clash but with practice, and the Lord Jesus as our conductor, a harmonic relationship begins.
Men and women are equal in the sight of God — but that does not mean that we are the same. God created men and women to be different, and one key to a great marriage is to work with His design rather than against it.
Together we work to make a difference in our community as lead pastor and pastor’s wife. We have been given the privilege to lead a congregation of hundreds to the saving grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ. Making a difference within these beautiful families allow us to harmonize with other to bring purpose and meaning to many families. The difference is joy, peace, security, hope and love!
Though MY HUSBAND’S MAKE is different from MY MAKE we are devoted to making a difference within our family and the hundreds of people the Lord allowed us the privilege to enter their private world.
Today, Pancho and I have a wonderful marriage. Not perfect, of course, but in spite of our differences, we love being married to each other.