A Dangerous Affection: Christians Dating Non-Christians – Part 2

By Selma Komisky

What harmony can there be between Christ and the Devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?   

    – 2 Corinthians 6:15 (LVG)

Let’s expose some clues to give you more insight on dating a non-believer.

The first clue is that you’re not going to meet the godly guy you’re looking for at some trendy club or local bar. What business would you or a godly guy have in that kind of environment? (Note to self: pray and wait upon the Lord. STOP and use wisdom and discernment.)

“…Be wise as serpents and gentle as doves.”

                            (Matthew 10: 16 NKJV)

Second clue is that he doesn’t attend church or desire to go with you. He might make excuses at first but eventually you’ll realize he doesn’t want to go at all. Someone who merely practices “religion” maybe occasionally will go on a Sunday here and there or go on a special holiday once a year. What you do desire is someone that has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and desires to go to church with you because He loves Jesus like you do. It will be evident that Christ is in that person’s life because they will desire the things of Christ.

“Every good tree bears good fruit.”   

                                            (Matthew 7: 17 NKJV)    

(Fruit tree is used as imagery – no one wants a tree with bad fruit!)

“But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in

Him. He will be like a tree planted by the water.”

                                                                                             (Jeremiah 17:7-8 NKJV)

The Third clue is that he never reads his Bible and doesn’t take any interest in talking about the things of God. He might own a copy but doesn’t open it. He might even be able to quote scripture but that doesn’t mean anything (even Satan quoted scripture in Matthew 4:6! – what version?) God speaks to us through His Word. The more we read Gods Word the more we know Christ! 

The Bible says, “the natural man (unbeliever) does not receive the things of the spirit of god, for they are foolishness to him, nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned,” (1 Corinthians 2:14 – what version?). Therefore, an unbeliever doesn’t have any interest reading Gods Word.

“His delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night”

              (Psalm 1: 2 NKJV)   

The Forth clue is that anyone who will tempt and cause you to fall into a compromising situation (i.e. sex, pornography, lying, stealing, taking drugs, drinking, living a sinful lifestyle, etc.) is not to be taken lightly. He might try to convince you its harmless but recognize your weaknesses and stay away from those things that pose a problem for you. Avoid any situation that can potentially stumble you.

“Let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall.”

      (1 Corinthians 10:12 NKJV)

The Fifth clue is that he always wants to be alone with you. He tries making passes at you hoping he will weaken you and you will eventually lower your standards.

He wants to isolate you. This is very unhealthy and a warning signal to stop the relationship because isolation is another trap of Satan. God wants you to have trusted friends, family, pastor, or mentor to help you along in your relationship which is called accountability (a safe guard in your relationship). Group dating is a great way to get to know the person you’re dating in a safe way so that you’re not tempted to do the wrong thing.

“Be watchful! Watch out for attacks from the Devil, your great enemy. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for some victim to devour.”

                (1 Peter 5:8 NJKV)

You can look out for the next clue in August with: A Dangerous Affection: Christians Dating Non-Christians – Part 3