A True Friend

(Photo by Lindsay O’Neil)

A True Friend

By Selma Komisky

“A friend loves at all times…”

– Proverbs 17:17 (NKJV)

Her kind, blue eyes sparkled as she welcomed you with her warm smile. She was a small, attractive, petite framed, godly woman but behind it all, she underestimated her worth.

The funny thing is Penny sought me out because she said, “I always wanted a best friend and the minute I saw you at church, I said to myself, I want to get to know her!” So a invitation was extended to me to have a cup of tea at Starbucks and we spent that early afternoon together talking about Jesus and sharing each others life stories. As time went on, I was delighted to get to know Penny.

We served alongside of each other in ministry, we experienced a mentorship/discipleship where we learned about Jesus and read our Bibles. We got to do this together for two years which was really special. Additionally, we were prayer partners, taking out requests to Jesus together. Although Penny would say I was the prayer warrior, she herself learned to confidently pray for others. We also sat and shared meals together with our families as we had the pleasure of getting to know our husbands and other family members. We celebrated my daughter’s graduation together as well as our birthdays. True friends delight in giving of themselves to one another and helping one another which is what Penny and I had with each other.

We would shop, laugh, and be silly like two young high school gals. Proverbs 17:22 says, “A cheerful heart is good medicine for others” and we were good medicine for each other. We’d have our frozen yogurt dates or go to Baskin Robbins (Penny loved her dessert!)

We would listen to each other without judging and our words were prompted by love. We extended kindness and expressed our love for one another.

When emergency’s came and in the midst of crises, we were there for one another. She cared about me and my families needs and showed support during a time when I was undergoing my breast cancer treatment. And, I will never forgot how she would come rain or shine and gave my daughter rides to school. She grieved and cried with me through the loss of my sister-in-law to breast cancer and Penny came to her memorial to show support.

Then I was able to pray it forward when Penny suddenly had to fly to be with her son in ICU and we didn’t know if he would make it. We held hands and leaned on the Lord for His strength to get through and for healing and rejoiced when God answered prayer.

When Penny got diagnosed with cancer in December she called me and we cried together and prayed. Me, my husband, and daughter had the privilege to take Penny to her chemo and we sat, talked, and encouraged her as she received it (Hebrews 3:13). We also prayed in the ICU at the hospital with Penny and worshipped Jesus together. When Penny got bad news, I was there to cheer Penny on to keep fighting and holding onto Jesus, Our Hope and Savior.

Penny was always there if you needed her (Who wouldn’t want a friend like that?) Her hidden beauty and humility, her kindness and love, her giving heart, hospitality, compassion, and her faith were all inspiring.

Good friends are hard to find. Penny found me but really I was the one who by far came out more richer for knowing her. True friendship teaches us to love and to think of the other person and give of our self. People always long to find and experience the joy of true friendship. Penny and I truly did and I was blessed to have a wonderful true friend.

Reflecting, her friendship was worth more than gold and was a beautiful gift from Jesus.
I thank the Lord for the time we had spent together and I will always treasure our special friendship. Penny told me, “I consider you like my sister and I told her I felt the same way.” Thank you Jesus!

Love you Penny…



Mom and Penny FINAL

(Photo Courtesy of Selma Komisky)