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Why I Am Falling in Love This Christmas
By Sarah Komisky
The Christmas season – sigh – there is none like it. Twinkling lights, cozy hot cocoa, family, comfort foods, carols, and snow. It’s enough to leave a girl breathless. As the song, “The Christmas Waltz,” goes, it’s truly, “that time of year when the world falls in love.” The season is one that speaks to the woman’s heart. With warmth and a beauty of its own, the time is truly a special blessing we get to experience each year. HOWEVER, it is also a time that leaves many of us with heartache…if we let it.
The counterpart to the so-called “Summer Romance” is the “Christmas Romance.” Its message is everywhere, shouting: you NEED a guy. Look at ad’s and we swoon over a guy proposing on a moonlit, snowy evening. Tune into a Hallmark movie and we are glued to the couple ice skating outdoors. Blockbusters like “The Holiday,” “Love Actually,” or the classic “It’s A Wonderful Life,” leave us questioning why we don’t have a handsome, silly, or sweet guy by our side. Turn on Pandora and songs like “All I Want For Christmas Is You,” or “Blue Christmas,” remind us of our need for our special someone. Go into a bookstore and you are bombarded by Christmas Romance. And if that is not enough, then there is the reminder in subtle things like decorating your tree, watching the movie “Elf,” attending a family dinner, going to a church function, or baking cookies that make us wish we had someone to share it with.
With all this, it is enough to leave us women in want, wishing, hoping, and then lamenting, coveting, or even becoming bitter over something we don’t have. If we aren’t careful, our vulnerabilities can leave us with an ache that can magnify and eclipse our Savior. Now, let me say that I am NOT being a grinch when it comes to Christmas romance. If that is the season you are in, then that is an incredible blessing that God has given you to enjoy and cherish. BUT, if you are not and become so concentrated on the deficit that it siphons your joy or robs your peace, than you’ve got a problem.
As I mentioned earlier, the Christmas season awakens a women’s heart because it’s beautiful. We appreciate all the little things during this time that cause us to stop in our place and leave us in awe and wonder. In fact, He wired us to be like this. He knows what makes us smile and warms our heart. It is His desire to awaken us to these things in the holiday season to simply bless us and remind us of His great love for us. Yet, if we buy into the message, the misconception, that we NEED someone to feel complete, that we are alone, or that we cannot enjoy these things without someone, we will miss the entire season completely.
Focusing on not being a relationship will blur our vision to the beauty that is around us. In fact, it will gnaw at our hearts and our minds if we let it. And more sadly, it will completely derail us from the true meaning of Christmas – CHRIST! Luke 2:11 in the Amplified version says, “For this day in the city of David there has been born for you a Savior, who is Christ the Lord (the Messiah).” Christ desires to romance us this season. He wants us ladies to know that he was born to be our Savior, saving us from sin and our vices. His coming to planet earth is proof of His deep love for us that was declared on Christmas.
So, instead of focusing on the deficit, let’s focus on the Savior. Instead of focusing on what we don’t have, let enjoy the things we do. Let’s gain a new perspective. We aren’t alone – so let’s enjoy those around us and even get busy seeking ways to bless them this season. Let’s appreciate the beauty of the holiday and all the things that make our hearts come alive – gifts given to us from our Savior to unwrap this December. Let’s fall in love with Jesus this season and let His love fill our hearts. One day we can look forward to an earthly love we can enjoy in Christ, but until then, let’s experience the ultimate love we long for – the love that leaves us breathless.