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By Andrea Yim
I truly believe that beauty is perfectly defined in God’s word. I wonder why, in light of this, we still choose to believe lies? Why has the world’s perspective hypnotized us? Why does the world get to define beauty? Why do we completely ignore what God believes beauty to be?
God made us perfectly in his image. He does all things well, and he made us beautiful as he was making and forming each of us in our mothers’ wombs. He did this to bring himself honor and glory. It is our love for those around us that defines who we are on the inside.
One night, as I was getting ready for a date with my husband, the pressure to look beautiful completely overwhelmed me with stress. I felt like nothing looked good on me, and when I looked in the mirror I thought my hair and face looked so ugly. I didn’t feel pretty enough for my husband.
I walked over to him and asked, “What do you think looks good on me? What can I do to make you think I’m the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen?” His response was shocking. He began to tell me that when I spend time with Jesus, when I spend time in his word, it makes me a more beautiful woman to him. He said that it’s an overflow of who I am to him and to the people around me.
Yes, physical beauty can be nice to look at, I’m not going to pretend that it doesn’t feel nice to feel physically beautiful, however it is a woman’s inner beauty that shines so bright to the world. 1 Peter 3:3-4 says this: “Do not let your adorning be external- the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear- but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”
Take care of yourself physically: shower, do your hair, wear makeup, whatever it is that you like to do that makes you feel beautiful. Remember, however, that it is temporary. You cultivate a beauty that is far greater than temporary beauty when you invest in your character by reading God’s word and loving others. Your character defines your beauty.
Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Isn’t that so refreshing? It is so freeing to take our eyes off of the magazines, television shows, and everything else that people say is beautiful, and instead to refine and invest in our character. It is freeing because we know that it pleases God, and that it also blesses everyone around us. I understand that it is a battle. Trust me, I am a woman and I too desire at times to feel physically beautiful, to be accepted or feel wanted. However, deep down inside I know the truth is that I only feel fulfilled when Jesus fills me with a character that is known by all around me as “beautiful.”
Next time you look in the mirror, remember who you are in Christ and do not dwell on who you are in the world’s eyes. Don’t neglect your daily physical grooming, but don’t forget your inner sweeping and tidying up too, for it is far more important. Be beautiful.