Beauty Defined: Words to Myself and My Sisters

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Beauty Defined: Words to Myself and My Sisters

By Melissa Valle

To my fellow sisters of Christ,

The main question I want to ask you today: how aware are you of your beauty?

Of your worth?

Answer sincerely and honestly.

Lately, I’ve noticed sometimes our closest and most loving friends and family members can say the harshest things. Phrases like “you’re too this,” or “not enough that.” Ladies, just be aware of the fine line between constructive criticism and plain verbal harassment. Be mindful whether they are speaking with sincerity in their hearts or torment. Whether they want what’s best for you or they’re pointing out the worst.

Also, please be watchful of your social media. With just a click of a button, you can easily glance over at that guy or girl’s account and just compare how many followers or likes they have on their status updates and pictures. Remember that celebrities invest so much of their lives just on that image of perfection, an endless and impossible image to portray.

Essena O’neil, model and health activist, deleted all her social media and shared how she would spend hours posing for one photo and still be dissatisfied with herself. These social media sites were created with a purpose to simply share with your friends and family of your day and expeditions. Not with this constant competition of your life and lives of friends and celebrities.

Mckenna Foxworthy writes it beautifully in her blogpost: “Are your goals motivated by you and given by God? Is your heart modeled after your Maker or modeled after mankind? Or are your goals based upon the picture posted in the small square? … Nothing wrong with thigh gaps or gorgeous girls. Nothing wrong with early engagements and beautiful babies. But there is something wrong if her life is your lusting.”

Lastly, the number of guys that want to date you doesn’t define you. Your worth is not determined whether or not that guy finds you beautiful in that dress tonight. It was determined when the perfect man shed His blood because he thought your weary soul was beautiful enough.

Stop bending over backwards for attention, love, and approval from faulty humans and start seeking the Holy and Almighty God. He has created the galaxies, the mountains, the oceans: all things we look at in awe. And He and still wants your heart.

Galatians 1:10 states, “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Man asks for many things, but God asks for one. Your heart.

Ultimately, your beauty is not defined by how many likes you have on your recent picture. Your beauty is not defined by how many guys look at you when you walk down the hall. Your beauty is not defined by how many times your friend says you’re “too weird,” or when your aunt says “your arms are too buff.” You are all beautiful in your own unique way.

1 Samuel 16:7 says, “For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” Your beauty was defined on the cross, when God thought you were worth dying for.

Love and Blessings,


Mckenna Foxworth’s blogpost: