Looking For Love

(Photo by Sarah Komisky)

Looking For Love

By Sarah Komisky

Reality TV this fall is speaking volumes about humanity. This season, one common theme is ringing true: we are looking for love. With the premiere of shows like Rob & Chyna, Love At First Kiss, and Finding Prince Charming, along with the launching of the new season of Jill & Jessa Counting On and 90 Day Fiancé, it is clear, love is on the radar.

This past September, 2,032 adult viewers, according to TV by the Numbers, tuned into the debut of Rob & Chyna. In this reality show, E! viewers can follow the “whirlwind romance” of Rob Kardashian and girlfriend Blac Chyna. From their engagement to Chyna’s pregnancy, and everything in between, viewers can come along the journey with this high profile couple.

And speaking of couples, viewers are tuning into Jill & Jessa Counting On to watch the unfolding of Jinger Duggar’s courtship with a guy named Jeremy. Currently engaged, the show will look back on the budding romance where curious fans can swoon along. TLC will also keeps the focus on relationships and finding love with the premiere of Love At First Kiss where random people hope to find true love’s kiss. Additionally, the new season of 90 Day Fiancé will feature people trying to find international love that lasts beyond 90 days.

Contestants are also looking and competing for love on one of Logo’s newest shows, Finding Prince Charming. The host Lance Bass (NSYNC) comments on the first gay bachelor telling Entertainment Tonight, “There’s a chance that these suitors might fall in love with each other, so there’s a whole extra element in this layer of uncertainty that could happen in this house.” Logo SVP Pamela Post quotes, “‘Finding Prince Charming’  will take views on a whirlwind journey through modern love and relationships in a way that only Logo can do.”

As illustrated, Reality TV clearly has a theme this season and it’s definitely saying something about our culture. We want to be valued and cherished. We want a relationship that lasts. We want to have all we hoped for. We want to be fulfilled. We want to find and be loved. Yet, are we looking for it in the right place?

I say this because human love has the ability to be genuine but can also be fickle and fleeting. When we place our hope in a human being to fulfill us, to make us happy, quench the loneliness, or make our dreams come true, we ultimately set ourselves up for disappointment. Now, I am not a pessimist. I actually consider myself quite a hopeless romantic at heart. But I know that human beings can only give so much (I can only give so much). We as humans are limited and therefore we can’t give others everything they need. So, when we hope in a person to fulfill us with their earthly love, we can find ourselves coming up dry.

So if we can’t place our satisfaction in human beings for love, where can we find it? May I bring up a new prospect? What about finding it in a deeper love? This love is known as the love of God.

Years ago there was a woman looking for love. She didn’t have Reality TV, but her life certainly looked like a reality show. She was an outsider, a woman jaded by several failed relationships with men, and she couldn’t find what she was looking for until she met a man unlike any other: Jesus Christ. Facing the daunting task of getting water from the well, she entered a conversation with this man she did not yet know was her Messiah (God that came to earth). Seeing this woman’s brokenness, Jesus asked her for a drink of water in hopes of reaching this woman with hope. He initiated a conversation (something no Jewish male would do with a half breed Samaritan woman). Hearing her story and plight, Jesus patiently answered her questions, spoke to her in love and also in truth. Then, He offered her what she was looking for. In John 4:13 in the New International Version, Jesus said to the woman, “But whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst.”

Earlier He told this woman, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water” (John 4:10).

This is the reality Jesus Christ is willing to give all of us today. All who have been jaded, disappointed, and disillusioned by the world’s version of love, He desires that we come to Him. His love will fill us; all we have to do is ask.