Sharing the Love This Christmas

(Photo by Lindsay O’Neil)

Sharing the Love This Christmas

By Melissa Valle

It’s as clear as the cold winter air that the holidays are meant to be spent with your loved ones. Green and red and silver and gold are found at every corner. However, you sit down at your local coffee shop and drink your hot chocolate and you see one, two, now three couples walking down and holding each other’s gloved hands. You hear the song “All I Want For Christmas Is You” playing in the background and you think, “another year has gone by and still no one has asked me to meet their parents at their annual Christmas gathering.” Or, you just had a break up and you can’t help but think and long for that person’s love.

I want to tell you that though you may not have that romantic love in your life to share the holidays with, you can still share love towards others and still go to holiday outings.

Here are some holiday outings you can have a blast at with your sisters.

Get Together

Every year, I meet with my friends from school and we have a secret Santa or white elephant party. The rules are simple and can be found anywhere online. I look forward to it every December because it is just a night filled with laughter and giving to the ones who have been for you throughout the year. You can feel the love you have for one another when everyone is gathered together and is just giving.


What better way to get in the holiday spirit than to let loose and learn how to make a better fruit cake with your close friends and family. You get to share your best cooking tips amongst one another and can watch your favorite holiday movie or read the Word while the food is in the oven. Food brings people together and it’s nice to realize how much love is shown through these excursions rather than dwelling on not being with someone.


In times during the holidays, it’s easy to get wrapped up in getting gifts for the people you know. However, my encouragement is to go towards those you don’t know. Have a packing party for Operation Christmas Child. Clean out your house and donate any of your old belongings to the Salvation Army. Go caroling with your church to residence homes. Take this opportunity to serve your community and exemplify the love of Christ to those who don’t know him, to share “the true meaning of Christmas” and Christ with your neighbors. Like it says in Matthew 5:16, seek the kingdom of God above all else.

In reflection

Sometimes dwelling on your relational state can be detrimental. My prayer is that you ladies will be more of the love that is found in Christ through serving others and being with your family and friends. The Lord knows what’s best for you at what state and what time.

Think of how you can better serve others instead of dwelling on how God can make you happier by having someone else hold your hand. Grasp the love the Father, friends, and family have for you rather than dwelling on the absence of another aspect of love. I am not saying that desiring to be in a relationship is bad, because God made it and it was good. However it is important to recognize that we must be pursuing Christ at all costs, through everything. The holidays are a time to celebrate the love that came down and paid our ultimate debts, a perfect love: a love that can never be fully understood or encapsulated, but needs to be recognized year round.

“When they saw the star, they rejoiced exceedingly with great joy.”

– Matthew 2:10