Addicted to Romance

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Addicted to Romance

By Savannah Lawrence

Romance, what a wonderful and beautiful thing. Growing up watching princesses in beautiful ball gowns dance around with their prince charming started my long journey of longing for romance. Since I was a kid, I have always dreamed about my prince charming, who he would be and when he’d come to my rescue. This dream also has my prince carrying me away on his white horse and feeding me pizza, but that isn’t important right now. For some reason, it feels like my brain and heart are programmed to long and hope for him to come for me. Why is that? From watching Prince Charming in Cinderella, to Jack in Titanic, my views on romance have not changed. Am I addicted to romance?

It may or may not be a surprise to you, but our longing for romance is rooted in the Bible. I know what you’re thinking, “How could the Bible be romantic?” It is, trust me. There are so many stories throughout the Bible about men and woman who battled, embraced, and ran from romance.

There is one story about a man and a woman that had a powerful love. The man’s name was Jacob, and he longed for Rachel. He was absolutely head over heels for this girl. He was in love with her and would do anything to win her over. In Genesis 29:20, it clearly says, “Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.” The romance that Jacob and Rachel had is the kind of romance that I want, what I look for in a future partner, and in movies. I love this story, love this romance. Am I addicted to romance?

There is this desire for romance that has been put inside of us. Some believe this love can be fulfilled with relationships on Earth, but Earthy relationships are only temporary. I believe that the love, the romance that we desire can be fulfilled with God’s love for us. This love that we want with our future husband will not match the love that God has for us.

Is it okay to be addicted to romance? Having a healthy loving relationship with God will reflect how your romantic relationships will be on Earth. If you are constantly thinking, watching, or being a part of a romance that is not glorifying to God, then your addiction to romance is destructive. When we are consistent with spending time with God by praying, journaling, and worshiping him, we are strengthening our relationship with Him. God pursues us 24/7, something no man could ever do for us. So why does it seem that we constantly value the romance between a man on Earth rather than a romance with God?

Luckily, if you’re like me, this question will always be a reminder to value the relationship you have with God. God created romance. He created all those mushy gushy feelings you have when you see your crush or when you watch a romantic movie. Even though he created such a beautiful thing to experience, there is also the possibility of abusing it. Thinking about it too much, dreaming about your prince, and longing for the actors in movies are signs of abusing romance. I have done it, and I’m sure you have too. When your thoughts are consumed with these ideas, there is no room for God’s romance, the one who created it. If you feel this way, there is nothing to be ashamed of. I feel that way all the time, but I am constantly trying to free my mind for God. I encourage you to do the same. Romance is good and sweet, but leaving the match making to God releases a lot of tension. It’s time to give him the cupid’s bow. In the mean-time, live life, go to the beach, hang out with friends, and never forget the most powerful romance you have with God.

So, are you addicted to romance?