Our Note to Guys: What We Appreciate About A Gentleman

(Photo by Selma Komisky)

Our Note to Guys: What We Appreciate About A Gentleman

By Sarah and Selma Komisky

QUESTION: How would you like a guy to spend quality time with you?

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

– Micah 6:8 (ESV)

This is our prayer for you.


“I would have to say: Respect. A true gentleman will always respect you. By respecting you, he will value you (your thoughts, your feelings, your body and your worth.  If he respects you, he will also put those things (your needs) first.” 

“I appreciate a man who respects me, my family, and is able to respect my views!”

“What I appreciate in a gentleman are often the little things. His attention to detail. How he goes out of his way to be accommodating when I’m having a bad day. He understands that he doesn’t need to put others down to make himself feel manlier. He knows I need to be independent but supports me just right. Gentlemen are underrated.”

“That he is displaying the character of God in the flesh through the fruits of the spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23.”

“So I keep coming back to a couple things when I ask myself this question: Respect of me,I don’t need to worry about their intentions and that allows me to feel safe and unguarded. Maybe, also how a gentleman makes me feel – like making me feel worthy and valuable. It makes me want to trust them. Also, the word comes to mind, so I guess I equate gentleman to being protective, in a healthy way.”

“I appreciate that a gentleman really listens to me when I am communicating and looks at things from my perspective as well as his own.” 

“I appreciate that he treats me with respect and through his gentlemanly ways which also shows me that I am a priority to him.”

“I appreciate about a guy who is a gentleman that he treats women with respect and ideally follows Jesus Christ’s will for his life. Besides, I appreciate little gestures like when the men opens the doors for women or gives them their jacket when they’re cold. When I think of a ‘gentleman’ I imagine a strong and active spiritual leader.” 

“Opened car doors and date nights are fine, but for me, a gentleman is present. Attentive and caring without being overbearing or overprotective. Treating a gal like an equal is always a plus.”

“I would consider a gentlemen one who protects me. Not in a controlling way but one that is representing God by caring for me. There is something said about being chivalrous and making a girl feel safe. Also, I would say I appreciate his respect, his ability to have self control, and his gentleness. Someone who others might call ‘old-fashioned’ by opening doors, helping me carry something or simply being polite is someone I consider valuable for sure.”