Our Note to Guys: Speaking Up

(Photo by Selma Komisky)

Our Note to Guys: Speaking Up

By Sarah and Selma Komisky

QUESTION: Why is it Important For Guys to Speak Up?

He has told you, O man, what is good; and what the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

– Micah 6:8 (ESV)

This is our prayer for you.


“It is important for a Christian guy to speak up because more than likely, the girl is waiting on him to make the first move. It’s not enough for him to take action, even if it seems obvious. Girls need to talk about things and without words, they will be confused. I’ve been in this situation before where a guy didn’t speak up and honestly, I lost my respect for him.”

“I think it is important because God puts ideas, visions, and dreams in each of us. If God gave you an idea for how we can have positive change or have a better future don’t be shy about it. Let people know! Your passion project can have an awesome impact on people’s lives and shine Christ through you!”

“I love when a man can speak up about his imperfections and share his feelings. I know that’s not easy or even a part of their nature, so when it’s communicated, I appreciate it. A man who is able to be vulnerable is a man I want to hear from.”

“I believe it’s important for men to speak up and let their voices be heard because God created all of us as unique individuals. Everyone has their own interests, feelings, beliefs, etc. and they should have the opportunity to share those with others. We have been given the freedom in Christ to speak our minds in a respectful manner. Let’s not let that gift go to waste!”

“I think it’s important to speak up because it shows how much he cares and how much he would put in for that topic.”

“I think it is important for a male to speak up, because it shows initiative. Women naturally have the tendency to take the first and last word, and if silence is left by the male, a woman will speak. When a male speaks up and has the first word it automatically sets the stage of expectation for the women to find her place within the first words spoken and not tread her own path.”

“Women don’t like when men close themselves off, don’t talk, and shut down. It makes us feel a little puzzled because we don’t know what’s going on inside. Nothing could be wrong but at the same time, it’s very frustrating and could be very detrimental to a relationship because they cut themselves off from communication. That’s a big part of the problem. So, my encouragement is: speak up men because us women are desiring to have conversation and hear what you have to say.”

“I think it’s important for guys to speak up because the truth is…words hold a lot of power and especially in a young girls life the words of a father figure or even a man she looks up to can be extremely impactful. Whether it’s something as serious as speaking up and stepping in if he sees someone being harassed or hurt in the street. Or as simple as having a guy speak up and get everyone to initiate a conversation when the quiet kid in the back of the class is sitting alone during break. I know these examples are kind of extreme but both can leave a strong impact on either person’s day or even life. Sometimes it’s taking that extra step to initiate a conversation with someone or speaking up when you see something that shouldn’t be happening.”

“It’s important for a guy to speak up so we’ll know why they’re upset or concerned or don’t like ‘whatever’ it is! So we’ll know what they truly want. How they feel about something. In spite of rumors to the contrary….we can’t read their minds!”

“I think guys should speak up about what they are passionate about because, simply put, their voice matters. Sometimes I think we can feel that what we are passionate about doesn’t matter. We can almost convince ourselves at times that our passions just aren’t significant or even worth mentioning if it isn’t bettering the world and that’s a lie. What you are passionate about matters to God and the world needs all types of people! So if you’re a guy and you’re passionate about music or singing, construction, working on cars (cars in general), or art, food, whatever it is  passionate about, voice it. People like to see/know that others are passionate about something. It’s encouraging and if what’s you enjoy than it’s worth talking about. Also, by speaking up about your passions you may just help others voice what THEY are passionate about as well.”