Our Note to Guys: Pause

(Photo by Selma Komisky)

Our Note to Guys: Pause

By Sarah and Selma Komisky

QUESTION: In what area would you like to see guys take a pause in and why?

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

– Micah 6:8 (ESV)

This is our prayer for you.


“I think maybe taking a pause to consider the effects of their actions, like what things have we let be ‘normal’ that might hurt others?”

“I work out and I know guys that do on a daily basis. I think it’s important to be healthy and exercise.  But what’s your reason you’re doing it? Take a pause and check yourself. Is it to stay fit, or to look ripped? Is it to check out who you meet at the gym, or is it that you find your identity in that? Does the time and effort putting into that equal the time spent building your spiritual life?”

“A pause in playing video games. There’s more to life than virtual reality: people and places to see.”

“I would say please take a pause with your cell phone when your in front of me or other people. I’m all in on Tik Toks, IG, stories, being up on news and trends. But it makes me feel sad that as I sit in front of you, and I can’t even talk to you. People want to engage with you, get to know you. Can you just put it down for a minute?”

“I would like to see men take a pause in cell phone use; to become men who read more than watch.”

“I would like it if guys – especially the one I would want to be in relationship with, would take a pause from life to be present with me and invest in me. Ask me questions. Listen. Be present. Let me know I matter and that you see me. Show me you care by your actions. Show me that I’m worth your time. That means more than any material gift ever would.”

“I think sometimes guys can feel like being passionate for God isn’t cool. So, maybe they feel tempted to hold back pursuing God the way they really want to or showing that passion for Him. I’d like guys to know that it’s okay to take time and invest in their relationship with God and they don’t have to be ashamed for their dedication to God to be seen by others. We’re encouraged to know they value spending time with God and getting to know Him. We’re inspired when we see their faith shine.”

“For men who have families – I think it would be wonderful for them to take the time to pause from work sometimes and spend time with their families more. Intentionality and taking time with family is not only important for himself, but for his relationship with his wife and children. For guys who don’t have families – I think pausing and being intentional with their time in growing, praying, and seeking God for his future family and not hopping from person to person, being in several relationships is needed.”