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Homemaker: A Divine Assignment – Part 2
“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
– Proverbs 24:3-4 (NIV)
By Zelda Dominguez
In part one I mentioned I had no understanding of what God’s word said about a homemaker and this divine assignment. I use to see myself as an intelligent, confident, professional, career woman, yet God saw me providentially as what I was to become. He desired to pull out His character in me and teach me qualities I never knew were in me. He desires to do the same in you. He used godly women who He brought into my life to be examples. I learned things like how to bake bread, organization, couponing, holiday planning, how to decorate my home, hospitality , crafts, cleaning more efficient, how to set a formal table, recipes / meal planning, daily devotions, etc.
In my life God also used Christian books and authors such as Emilie Barnes and Elizabeth George, to name a few. Emilie Barnes wrote numerous books on organization, time management and prioritizing Jesus in our lives. In her bio it states” Best-selling author, dynamic speaker, and devoted homemaker”. I love that. Elizabeth George dedicated author helping people live a life after God’s own heart. All this helped me accept my chosen role of homemaker, wife and mom with new significance and zeal.
Did you know God himself is a Divine Homemaker? In Genesis first two chapters, God creates the world for inhabitation, a home for all creation. Our Lord creates a garden for human creation to live and dwell in. He prepared it, meeting every need for comfort, security, and provision. If we look in the Bible at John 14:1-4. Jesus tells us, “In His Father’s house there are many mansions,” (i.e. dwellings, rooms, houses). Then He says, “I go to prepare a place for you.” A heavenly home for you and I. He will return for us so that we will be with Him. At the end of the Bible in Revelation 21 it speaks of that home, a new heaven and a new earth. The same Lord, who prepared the garden in the beginning of the Bible, now prepares a dwelling where true believers will live with Him for eternity. It describes Heaven with such detail and beauty. Think about it, if we prepare when family and friends come over with special meals or things they like, even more so what has Christ prepared for us? He is the Heavenly Homemaker.
Women have been brainwashed that they are better than someone staying home to care for her home and family. In our desire to be all we are meant to be, let us not forget what we are meant to be. The Bible tells us in Titus 2:3-5 (New American Standard Version) it says,” Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the Word of God will not be dishonored”.
This speaks to all ages of women. The “older woman” referred to here, means aged or seasoned, senior to the younger. This could be in age or spiritually in her relationship with Christ. We all have someone younger than us in age and spiritually, that we can mentor or be examples to. Just look around you. Another thing I’d like to point out is the Greek word “oikourgos” is used here, which literally means to teach the younger women to be a guard, a stay at home, caring for the house, working at the home.( I e. a good house keeper, and manager.) Note all these things are good and important enough to be mentioned as qualities to pass on to other women.
Proverbs is the most practical book in the Bible. No other book is more saturated with home, family, and relationships. In the book of Proverbs, chapter 31, this woman works diligently for her household and family. In Proverb 31:17-18 (TLB) “She is energetic, a hard worker, and watches for bargains. She works far into the night”. Proverb 27 states “She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” (She watches over her home and is not lazy) I know women who are self –indulgent who spend all their time watching TV or on the computer, sleeping in, visiting or talking on the phone, shopping, and neglecting their responsibilities at home. This woman is in sin. I know because I was one of these women for a period in my life. We should all aspire to have a heart for God as the virtuous woman described in this chapter, and to follow in her footsteps.
I know we included scripture that tells us what to be, but I also wanted to include a few verses that say what not to be. In the Bible Paul states, “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (I Tim. 5:13-14 NIV). Paul encouraged homemaking over laziness and gossip. While he was addressing young widows, his message applies to all wives/ homemakers.
I hope these scriptures helped you with understanding what God says about this divine role. But I hope it doesn’t overwhelm you to think you could never fulfill this calling. I encourage you to pray and ask God for wisdom, understanding, and guidance. As you seek and submit to Him, He will be the One that will do the work in you, and through you. He will direct you as He did me. God isn’t asking for perfectionism or a perfect house. Remember your relationship with Christ and to glorify Him comes first. Above all else make time to read His Word. Books are great but not before spending time in the Bible. Make time to get into the scriptures, meditate on it, memorize it, and apply it to your life.
“Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this”
– Psalm 37:5 (NIV)