Why Say “No” to the Sexy Costume Trend
By Sarah Komisky
I’ve had it. You heard (read) me right – “I’VE HAD IT!” For awhile the sexy costume trend has been circling every fall season but this year, the trend is catching up to a younger generation – elementary school (thus the “I’ve had it.”) Marketers have created a sexy version of everything under the sun from SpongeBob SquarePants to My Little Pony, Hello Kitty, and the Wizard of Oz Scarecrow (really?) But if that wasn’t enough, now little girls have the option of being a sexy police officer this year at Party City. Forget a Disney princess, little girls can now be a mini version of sexy Wonder Woman and Mom can get a matching, more sexualized costume that is form fitting and low-cut. All they have to do is look at the adults in their lives to wonder why they can’t have a costume like that?
Fast forward to the tween age and you will find the new “it” costume from Monster High complete with short skirts, knee highs, and skeleton makeup. Not only is this not pleasing to God for its dark essence but it’s immodesty. Advertised as cute and harmless, the message is: sexualized costumes are acceptable. Why? Because girls see their friends, older sisters, and (gasp) moms sporting sexy costumes without a bat of the eye.
For those who are thinking, “What’s the big deal?” Take some time to read on.
Having fun for fall and dressing up in a silly costume somewhere turned into opting for the sultry and scandalous. It is no longer about thrifting to create your own DIY (do it yourself) outfit. Now it’s about skimming the aisles for anything skimpy. For female teens and young adult women, it’s all about competition. Bottom line: Who can turn the most heads and if it’s by means of using a sexy Minnie Mouse, Ninja Turtle, or a Black Widow costume, then so be it.
In other words, Halloween to the world is all about manipulation. Use your body to attract attention – male attention that is. And to be honest, young women can feel a little bit out of the loop when they don’t. But like that saying Mama always says, “If everyone else is doing it, does that mean you have to too?” Mama was right. But even more than Mama, Jesus is right and he cares about our clothing choices (even costumes). Trends come and go and not only is this one morally wrong for obvious reasons, it’s spiritually wrong for several others.
One: your body-flaunting costume is causing men to lust and therefore you are the cause of his stumbling – eek! You may get his attention but I can assure you it’s not the one your heart desires. Don’t confuse cheap counterfeits with feeling valued, lovely, cherished, respected, cared for, and loved. Know, if you could enter the minds of those guys, you would probably feel violated and disrespected. To them, you are like EVERY other girl who flaunts their body and he will expect to treat you accordingly (as an object) and you are worth more than that!
Two: your immodesty is breaking God’s heart. He calls us to guard our bodies with respect by dressing modestly (1 Timothy 2:9). So when we violate that, it hurts Him and it hurts you. If He says you have value, worth, and are His, than you are not only hurting Him but you are also misrepresenting Him. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 in the New Living Translation says, “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”
So before you put that sexy costume in your cart, think about those things. And if you are a mom, offer your daughter an age appropriate costume that she could be cute, modest, and have fun in. She may say you’re “SO unfair” but later on she will thank you.
It’s time for us ladies to break the mold and not conform to this world. We can still be fun, cute, and silly without lowering our standards, compromising our beliefs, violating our bodies, and manipulating men around us.