(Photo by Lindsay O’Neil)
The New Beauty Routine
By Kyle Jane Heskett
“Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”
-1 Peter 3:3-4 (NASB)
When I was in junior high, I had verses like the one above taped to my mirror to help me remember the true meaning of beauty. Looking back, I realize that I knew all of these verses by heart, but I never took them to heart. It wasn’t until college that I began to really put these verses into practice because that’s when all the self-hate I had regarding my physical appearance began to bubble to the surface. The little insecurities I had as a teenager were never dealt with and they turned into big insecurities as an adult. I wish that as a young girl, I had embraced true beauty. It would have helped me battle against the lies I faced about myself and it will help you too.
So what is this true beauty? And how can you embrace it? As 1 Peter 3:3-4 shows us, beauty is on the inside. It lies with the spirit, something that is not easily altered. Our bodies are always changing. We will continue to age and physical flaws will always be there in some shape or form. But your spirit is of the living God, and it gets stronger with age as you grow in Him. Beauty is in the way you love the Lord and in the way you love others. It is living out God’s truth in your life. There are ways you can put this truth into practice. I’d like to introduce to you a whole new beauty routine, one that will help you embrace your true beauty. Lip gloss and mascara can only take you so far, but this routine highlights just some of the ways you can let out that beauty that is edging to proclaim God’s life in you! So here’s your chance! Take the time to merge yourself into God’s truth as a young teen and see how God can use this to strengthen you for any future challenges you may face.
Spend Time in Daily Devotions
Your alone time with God will shape your whole attitude. Every morning, spend time in the Bible, in prayer and just get to know Him, even if it’s just for a few minutes. We are bombarded with other people’s opinions all day long and it takes a daily reminder from God’s Word to keep us on track. A great place to start is with the Bible App on your phone from YouVersion. There are plans you can follow, videos, and more. Ask God to open your mind up to what He wants you to know.
Have Positive Friendships
It is important to surround yourself with people that feed into your confidence, not your insecurities. Imagine a world where you can tell your friends anything, the good or the bad, and they come along side of you and encourage you through that time. That is what a true friend does. Proverbs 17:17 states that “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”
Seek a Mentor
A mentor is someone older than you that you can trust to talk about the struggles you are facing, someone that encourages you in the right direction. A mentor is different than the rest of your friends because it is someone who has wisdom in the things you are facing. They have been there themselves and learned from their experiences. There are many things you can do with your mentor such as talk about life, gain some advice, take part in Bible study together, and simply spend time together by going to the movies or out to eat. Try to make meeting with your mentor a weekly occurrence in order to have that constant positive influence in your life.
Find a Creative Outlet
The more we indulge in magazines, movies, and articles that promote self worth based on physical appearance, the more we begin to believe it. Find other ways to spend your time and express yourself. Art, sports, music, and volunteer work are just some ideas. There are more ways to express who you are than just what you look like so find what you like doing.
What we look like on the outside is just a sliver of who we really are. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look attractive with the clothes we wear or the makeup we put on, but that is not what makes us beautiful. So take God’s truth to heart, and discover how precious you are in His sight.