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Never Been Kissed? Let’s Talk About It
By Maxine O’Loane
February is officially here which means Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. So bring on the heart-shaped boxes, dozens of roses, romantic comedies, and pink and red colored stuffed animals in every size imaginable. I personally love Valentine’s Day because it’s the perfect excuse to watch all of my favorite rom-coms and chick flicks, but I didn’t always feel this way about February 14th. I’m not going to dive into relationships just yet, instead I’ll touch on never having been kissed and why we should embrace it.
Over the years I’ve had the honor of attending some of my good friends’ weddings and to be honest, my favorite part is always the ceremony. Not because of the ambiance of the venue or seeing the wedding party walk down the aisle, I’m more interested in hearing the vows. Especially if the couple mentions that they’ve never kissed; just thinking about it makes me smile. I know that sounds a little weird but being able to share my first kiss with the love of my life on the most meaningful day of our lives amazes me. And yes, I’ve ousted myself. I, a 23-year-old woman, have never been kissed and you know what, I’m proud to say it! It’s a rarity in a society where phrases such as “it’s just a kiss, it doesn’t mean anything” or “just get it over with” are so casually used to describe something as precious as a first kiss.
In Isaiah 43:4 the Bible states, “You are precious to me. You are honored and I love you.” God sees us as His precious children and in Proverbs 31:10 we as women of God are described as being “worth more than even rubies.” Think about that, we are so loved, treasured, and honored in the eyes of the Lord that He wants nothing but the best for us. The reason I say this is to remind you that as Christians we’re to be set apart from everyone else, whether it’s the way we speak, how we dress, or abstaining from things like kissing. I don’t know about you, but I remember being embarrassed of never being kissed especially in high school. Whenever the subject was brought up, I did anything in my power to avoid the conversation, usually because I ended up feeling like something was wrong with me. Now that I think back on it, the fact that someone can be shamed for something like not being kissed breaks my heart. In all honesty, waiting to share something as special as a kiss with your future spouse is an amazing thing. Especially because it’s not something many people in today’s society can say.
A first kiss is a rare and precious thing that should be saved for the man that God has for you. Remember that having never been kissed is nothing to be embarrassed about, but rather something to take pride in. I know it’s easier said than done, but trust me with God’s perfect timing. It will be worth the wait.