Billy & Ruth Graham: Couple of Purity

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Billy & Ruth Graham: Couple of Purity
Marriage Lessons & Quotes

By Selma Komisky                              

“Ruth and I don’t have a perfect marriage but we have a great one.”

– Rev. Billy Graham

Reverend Billy Graham and his wife Ruth met one another at Wheaton College. They were later married on August 13, 1943 and were married for 64 years. This couple accomplished almost everything who ties the knot aspires to; to have had an enduring love, and reached old age together. They’ve shared life’s happiest moments but also weathered its biggest challenges. How did they do it? By keeping God at the center of their marriage.

Here are some encouraging quotes that you may enjoy reading…

Billy and Ruth Graham:

“Ruth is my soul mate and best friend, and I cannot imagine living a single day without her by my side.”   

– Rev. Billy Graham            

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”

Ruth Graham

“Ruth [Graham] was my life partner, and we were called by God as a team. No one else could have borne the load that she carried. She was a vital and integral part of our ministry. And my work through the years would have been impossible without her encouragement and support. I will miss her terribly, and look forward even more to the day I can join her in Heaven.”

– Rev. Billy Graham (remembering his wife after she passed away)

Who invented marriage? He is the One to whom we must go. His Book of Instructions has the answers”                                          

Ruth Graham

“Ruth and I don’t have a perfect marriage, but we have a great one. In a perfect marriage, everything is always the finest and best imaginable. It’s like a Greek statue, the proportions are exact and the finish is unblemished. Who knows any human beings like that? For a married couple to expect perfection in each other is unrealistic. The unblemished ideal exists only in ‘happily ever after’ fairy tales. I think there is merit to a description I once read of a married couple as ‘happily incompatible.” Ruth likes to say, “If two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.” The sooner we accept that as a fact of life, the better we will be able to adjust to each other and enjoy togetherness.” 

Rev. Billy Graham

“If I marry: He must be so tall that when he is on his knees, as one has said he reaches all the way to heaven. His shoulders must be broad enough to bear the burden of a family. His lips must be strong enough to smile, firm enough to say no, and tender enough to kiss. Love must be so deep that it takes its stand in Christ and so wide that it takes the whole lost world in. He must be active enough to save souls. He must be big enough to be gentle and great enough to be thoughtful. His arms must be strong enough to carry a little child.”

Ruth Bell Graham

“The Bible is clear – God’s definition of marriage is between a man and a woman.”                                                                                        

– Rev. Billy Graham

“It takes two to make a fight.”

Ruth Bell Graham

“The word romance, according to the dictionary, means excitement, adventure, and something extremely real. Romance should last a lifetime.”  

Rev. Billy Graham                                                                                                      

“God has not always answered my prayers. If He had, I would have married the wrong man — several times!”

Ruth Bell Graham

“I pity the married couple who expect too much from one another. It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be: ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a man under an impossible strain. The same goes for the man who expects too much from his wife.” 

Ruth Bell Graham

“It’s my job to love and respect Billy; it’s God’s job to make him good. God called you not to make your husband good, but to make him happy.” 

– Ruth Bell Graham

Being human, not one of us will ever have a relationship with another person that doesn’t have a wrinkle or a wart on it somewhere.” He said, “The unblemished ideal exists only in ‘happily ever after’ fairytales. Graham believes it all starts with putting God at the center of your relationships and allowing him to rule. “God can help you begin to rebuild your marriage and your life if you will let Him rule in your life.”

Rev. Billy Graham

Quotes from their Daughters:

“From since I was a small girl, I knew my mother and daddy loved each other. It was obvious. Each time Daddy entered the room, Mother’s eyes lit up and I knew that she felt her heart ‘rise within her.’ He was quick to hold her close, grasp her hand, or give her a tender kiss. It was clear to all that they adored one another and were in love.”                                                                            

– Gigi Graham Tchividjian

“My mother taught me by her example that Jesus is everything. He was the wellspring of her love and joy and peace that overflowed into our home. His presence was enough to ease the pain of her loneliness without Daddy. His power was enough to get her through the day, for all practical purposes, as a single parent. I have no doubt that the reason I love Jesus and I love my Bible is because she did. She planted those seeds in my heart long ago.” 

– Anne Graham Lotz

“As I grew older I realized that my parent’s love for one another was deeper than just the look in their eyes each time one of them came into the room. Their love was based on more than their physical and emotional attraction. It was based on solid, uncompromising commitment —first to Jesus Christ, second to the institution of marriage. And then there is their commitment to each other.” 

– Gigi Graham Tchividjian   

“Mom has been a painter and a poet, an incredible woman and wonderful wife to set him free to do what he was called to do. I never had heard my mother complain or lose her temper, although she was as called to evangelism as daddy.”

– Anne Graham Lotz  

Quotes from their Sons:

“They celebrated lots of wonderful anniversaries together before my mother passed away. My father Billy Graham said about their marriage, ‘It gets better as you get older. The secret is the Lord Jesus Christ — to have Him in the center of our lives. We were called by God as a team.”

– Franklin Graham

“As they grew older it was obvious that my parents were more in love than ever by the way they teased each other and by the way their eyes lit up when they were together. He still misses her every day and looks forward to seeing her again one day. It wasn’t perfect — but I do think they had a marriage made in heaven”

– Franklin Graham   

“There never would have been a Billy Graham without Ruth Graham.”

– Ned Graham