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How To: Show You Care Without Words
By Kyle Jane Heskett
“Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.”
– 1 John 3:18 (NLT)
I remember when I was a little girl – my mom would always hold me tight whenever I was upset and crying. She didn’t have to say anything for me to know that she cared. Actions sometimes speak louder than words. If you’re anything like me, it can be hard to know what to say to a hurting friend, a scared child, or an angry spouse. Thanks be to God that He created our bodies with the ability to communicate in so many different ways. It is quite amazing how we can show we care without any words at all.
Did you know that most of our communication is non-verbal? According to researcher Albert Mehrabian, only a small fraction of communication is the actual words themselves. Most of what we “say” to someone is through body language or tone of voice. The actions you take account for a lot. When faced with a hurting friend or family member, sometimes the best way to show you care is to simply listen to them, hug them, or perhaps do them a favor.
The same goes with romantic relationships too. For most couples, there are five love languages they operate by. A love language is simply how someone feels most loved by their partner. The five love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gifts, and quality time (5lovelanguages.com). My number one love language is acts of service. I feel the most loved by my husband when he does nice things for me like helping me around the house or cooking dinner. Notice how only one of those love languages directly deals with words (words of affirmation). Showing someone you care is often shown with the time you give them and the little ways you can show them you’re thinking of them. Words are important, but they can only go so far. Think outside the box to show you truly care.
Someone who is never short on showing He cares is our Lord Jesus Christ. Showing love through actions is a major theme throughout the Scriptures. Jesus told His disciples that if they loved Him, they would keep His commandments (John 14:15). Romans 12:19 gives guidance as to what love really looks like, such as feeding the hungry and blessing others. Jesus Himself showed the ultimate form of love when He died on the cross for us. John 15:3 says “There is no greater love than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” That is a pretty huge sacrifice! Hopefully we will never have to physically give up our lives to save a friend, but we still need to think about what actions we are called to make in our daily lives to show the love and care of Jesus to others.
We are capable of doing more than what we often limit ourselves to. We have a mind, a heart, and the Spirit of the Lord to communicate we care in incredible ways that speak volumes. Let us go out into the world, not afraid to say the wrong thing, but confident in all the ways we were made to care.