Don’t Fall for the Wrong Guy

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Don’t Fall for the Wrong Guy

Kimberly Loidolt

It seems in this modern society that we live in today, people jump from relationship to relationship; it is almost like people today live to date. It’s understandable, since a large goal in life for many people is to find true love, get married and start a family. But, one needs to make sure that they aren’t going about this goal in the wrong manner.

My friend once told me, “A woman’s heart should be so rooted in Christ that a man needs to seek Him just to find her.” It is important as Christian women in a secular world that we invest and fall for men that have the same values and beliefs as us.

I know it is hard to know who is telling the truth, and if you start to date someone, they could easily change who they are as a person. Dating in today’s world is tricky. There are people who pretend to be someone they are not, there are people who are out to get you and your relationship, and many other variables like social media and premarital sex that play in as well. For me, the best way to make sure that I am not getting myself into anything that I don’t want to be a part of, is to leave it in the hands of God.

I know, as a Christian woman, that God’s plan for me and whoever I marry is way bigger and better than anything that I could plan for myself. Now, of course I am no expert and I continue to learn more about relationships from God’s lessons every day. I have been in the place where maybe you are today – lost, looking for someone with similar values and beliefs as me, who I can spend time, laugh, and have adventures with in my life. I often find myself going down the easy path of confiding in a boy who cares about me. Most of the time, the boy is not one I could see myself with for the rest of forever, but I like to be loved, so I fall for the wrong guy.

It happens all the time. It happens to me, it happens to you, and it happens to every girl I’ve ever met in my life. It even happens to me in midst of telling myself not to let it happen. But from what I have learned, whenever I start to get feelings for a guy, I stop and I talk to God. I find myself in a place where I need Him to show me if this is where He needs me to be, and if this guy I am pursuing is the best fit for me and my role in His kingdom.

I’m going to be honest, it is never easy. I am always too eager and too excited about the attention and love from a guy, and I just want to rush right in, so I have to force myself to take a step back and reflect on God’s plan before I do anything too hasty. His plan is so much greater than anything I could ever accomplish by rushing into a relationship.

In hindsight, God truly is the only guy you need. He is the only one who will never leave you, never hurt you, and never fail you in anyway. God will never deceive you or break your heart. He loves you more than any person on this earth, and he is always there for you. If you’re going to fall for a guy, fall for God.