Our Note to Guys: Communication

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Our Note to Guys: Communication

By Sarah and Selma Komisky

QUESTION: How can a Godly Guy improve his communication with you?

 “He has told you, O man, what is good; and what the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

– Micah 6:8 (ESV)

This is our prayer for you.


This is a great question! I think the best way to improve communication is to ask more personal questions. For example, if you’re in a group of friends, it would be a great sign of communication if he would ask you personally, ‘how are you?’ or ‘are you having a good time?’ It shows interests in you without being over the top. I also think a Godly Guy can improve his communication by praying! Asking God for wisdom in each situation is important as He will guide you!”

“Be careful that your intentions are clear – teasing and joking can be misunderstood as flirting to a girl who has hidden feelings for you and doesn’t know where you stand.”

“The best way for a Godly guy to communicate to me or to anyone is so be honest. Even if it’s something that I don’t want to hear, honesty is the most important thing to me. It is way worse to hide behind a lie than to tell me something that might hurt me or make me angry. I would rather have the cold, hard truth than a soft lie.”

“A Godly Guy can improve his communication by simply speaking his mind, or agreeing with me to put time aside to talk once a day/ once a week, etc.”

“I think a good conversation is key! Drives me crazy, when they don’t talk and don’t share things openly! Communication is of great importance in any relationship!”

“A godly guy can improve communication by feeling comfortable opening himself up. Whatever the problem is, from family life to spiritual struggles, communication with his feelings is important.”      

“How can a godly man improve his communication with me? I would have to say that he first would have to be honest, good listener, and guide me in a Godly manner. By doing that, he can lead me [as] needed according to God’s word, with wisdom and understanding. When a Godly Man guides according to God’s word, you have better communication between each other, there’s better understanding. It helps a lot to know that you can count on that person, especially when he communicates open freely and with God’s word.” 

The saying “actions speak louder than words” has always rung true with me. Its two fold, first there is non verbal communication that sometimes rings louder than speaking. Words alone account for only a small part of communication. For instance facial expression, eye  contact or lack of, body language, gestures and tone of voice. Communication involves our actions, behavior and attitudes. Another point is that communication involves a heart issue as well. If a person is self focused then it totally effects the communication.  A godly guy should do a heart check. If he’s abiding in Christ and set on pleasing God and obeying His word, he will be other’s centered. He won’t be  only talking about himself, boastful, prideful, vulgar, rude, manipulative, or conceited. He won’t demand his way, he wont judge others if they don’t agree with him.  It is important to be a good listener also.” 

“I think a godly guy can improve his communication with me by being a good listener and not being afraid to be vulnerable. It shows a sign of immaturity when a guy is uncomfortable or wants to run for the hills when there is something difficult going on in a girls’ life. Instead of weakness, I think it shows strength to be real and to be able to talk about the hard or deeper issues in life that might be uncomfortable. A good guy will be able to be mature enough to talk about those things with sensitivity and compassion. He will be able to emotionally present and not detached (which is huge in communication).”

“By being open and honest about how he really feels. By not hiding his true emotions. By not being afraid of telling me what’s really going on inside his head!”