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Toxic Besties
How to Deal With Bad-Bestie Relationships 

By Roselyn Barrios

I hope all of you are doing well and having a great year so far. It is that time of year again where we are halfway through our school year and, sometimes, friend relationships aren’t doing that well. What I mean by that is some girls don’t like their friends anymore, maybe because they’re jealous of how popular they are, or their clothes, or maybe just their personality. If you are in that situation, don’t worry about it. If you are having a hard time deciding whether to be a girl’s friend or not, pray about it because God knows that you are in need of him and he wants to hear you ask him for help. Because that’s all he wants to do for us-to help us. After you pray think about what you want to do. If you want to get out of that friend relationship make sure you break off the relationship in the kindness way possible.

So, what you could do is go up to her and tell her exactly how you feel; don’t be shy about it and, yes, you will get a little sad and it may be kind of scary because obviously she could say some mean things about you. And that is hard to go through, but you should not worry about that and focus on school right now. Soon enough, maybe in about a day or two, you’ll make a new friend or stay with the other friends that you have, who are probably nicer than that other girl, which is a good thing. It’s not well for you or anyone to have someone bringing you down to the point where you are uncomfortable or get sad every time you talk to your friend. Make sure you know who you’re hanging out with and if they’re not treating you right. And, if not, you know it’s time to change something about it and to stand up for yourself.

Don’t let people bring you down. There are millions of people in this world who could be your friend, don’t make any of them your enemy. And the way you could do that is to make sure you pick the right friends. The kind of friends who will treat you right, respect you, and make the best of the time you guys are friends. The best way to break off a relationship is to do it in person, but if you are way too scared to do it do it in person do it over a text. It is not the best way to end a friend relationship, but if you can’t do it in person do it over text; but after sending that message make sure the next day to build up enough courage to walk up to her and just say, “I’m sorry.” After that just walk away and go through with the rest of your day. Do not say bad stuff about her because that is not right. Even if she did some bad things and told you secrets that means she trusted you at one point and if you go out telling those secrets you will hurt her inside and hurting someone’s feelings just to get revenge is not the best way to get over your days getting hurt. All those days that made you sad are all in the past and it is now time to focus on your future. Things will get better in the end. You must keep praying to God whenever you ever feel sad or upset. Make sure you also talk to your parents or guardian. That way they can see what they can do to help you feel better.

I will pray for all of you and hope for the best. Love you all and God bless you.