(Photo by Selma Komisky)

Our Note to Guys: Appreciating Authenticity

By Sarah and Selma Komisky

QUESTION: What Do You Appreciate in An Authentic Guy?

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what the Lord requires of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

– Micah 6:8 (ESV)

This is our prayer for you.

SURVEY ANSWERS:

An authentic guy is able to talk about past mistakes and weaknesses. He not concerned  about managing his own reputation, but focused on God’s glory and is quick to give God credit for his commendable acts. (This honors God and helps me as a woman to think straight and to not idealize or romanticize a man, for “charm is deceitful”).

“Honesty of course. Imperfect, but striving to improve himself. Goal oriented. Confident. Accepts responsibility for his actions.”

“I appreciate a kind sense of humor. Using humor to put up a false front or to belittle others to make yourself feel or look better is really unattractive. If a guy is Christlike, why wouldn’t his humor be both funny and kind?”

“In an authentic guy I am appreciating that he is not moved by the opinions of others. He does not change his appearance or character to be liked or to fit in, but instead holds on to his values and beliefs at all times.”

“Honesty.”

“I appreciate a guy who is not afraid to show emotions. A crying man is not a weak man in my opinion.”

“When I looked up authentic in the dictionary it gave me a good picture of what that word means. Authentic: not false or copied; genuine; real. One thing I appreciate in an authentic guy is the confidence it takes to be who you really are. Authentic means genuine or real and I feel we live in a world today where we feel this need to put on a front to be accepted or liked, but authenticity doesn’t call for that. It calls for you to be who you really are with everyone and that takes confidence. It’s hard to put your true self out there, and sure you may not be liked by everyone, but at least you will be able to rest assured knowing you are being true to yourself. True friends/women will appreciate your genuineness and authenticity because in the end authenticity is far more appreciated than a poor portrayal of who you really are.”